This World and Relationships

I am in a “long-term” relationship. I have been with my partner for almost 3 years. We have been quite happy together but have gotten to a stage where we fight often – not screaming matches, or anything like that; but stubborn duels that end in regret – and easily frustrate each other. I don’t think we will be embarking on this journey together.

I believe that my personality has been significantly impacted by the unhappy situation I have found myself in. This rubs off on him. He resents me for it.

I have hope, in a better situation, away from all that negatively affects our lives, there is a chance things can work out. However, he doesn’t want the life that could potentially lead to that.

He has taken the default position. He believes the life that we live currently, that he wishes to continue, is normal. Any deviation from the norm is criticised with implications of selfishness. Compromise can only happen if I move closer to the norm – the thing I most want to get away from.

He is all or nothing. The idea of him travelling between houses – sustaining a long-distance relationship if you will – isn’t worth it, he says. It may as well just end. Due to the features of my ideal, I cannot be the one that does the travel.

I try to talk about it. It depresses him. We get no where. This is the stumbling block.

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3 thoughts on “This World and Relationships

  1. Love your blog you have to follow your own heart what resonates with you even if others don’t agree with it and who does agree with this less is more lifestyle ? Not many, it’s a keep busy strive for more world ,I for one can’t do it and I don’t I got off the treadmill 2 and a half yrs ago when I had a wake up call I couldn’t ignore health wise. good luck 🙂

    • Thanks for the kind words, Louise. I love your comment!

      Fortunately, people are becoming more frugal so the less is more lifestyle doesn’t seem so obscene. But you’re right, one must push past all those external voices and live a true life.

      Speaking of health. I have a cold / flu at the moment. It isn’t too bad. It’s been going around the office – one person is passing it on to the next. In my workplace, to take a sick day is met with much guilt-tripping. I think that’s disgusting. And whenever I face that situation, I want out even more! “But Pav, we have some really important deadlines to meet.” Deadlines, like jobs, will always be there. My body – my health, my well-being, my sanity – is the only one I have got.

      • Oh ya I hear ya loud and clear this thought about my own health and well being has been crossing my mind a lot lately too 🙂 mental well being ….

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